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Are We Aligned?

Alignment is the ground the whole village stands on. Whether you come as a soul to be held, a spaceholder who holds, or a helper who walks beside — the same heart is asked of all of us.

This isn’t a test to pass. It’s a quiet mirror: read on, and notice whether you find yourself nodding.

What we hold dear

🤍Devotion over performanceWe hold one another with genuine care — presence, not polish. Nobody has to have it all figured out.
🤝Respect for every soulDignity is the floor, not the ceiling. We honour each person’s pace, story, and path as their own.
🧭Courteous curiosityWe lead with the question before the answer, and listen longer than we speak.
🔒Confidence keptWhat is shared in a circle stays held. Trust is the village’s most precious thing.
🌿Tradition honouredWe walk beside the old, tried-and-tested ways with humility — never claiming what isn’t ours.
🕊️Healing, togetherMasculine and feminine, giver and held — complementary, never in contest. We rise together or not at all.

What stepping in asks of everyone

By joining the village — in any seat — you agree to:

  • Stand with these values — and let them show in how you treat people, not just what you believe.
  • Own your conduct. Be professional, respectful, and trustworthy; the trust you’re given is never used for your own gain.
  • Stay courteously inquisitive — ask, listen, and let each person find their own footing.
  • Keep what’s shared in confidence held.
  • Bring repair when you fall short. We don’t ask for perfection; we ask for honesty and return.

And of those who hold space

Spaceholders and helpers carry a little more — the care of others:

  • Know your limit. Hold what is yours to hold, and no more — you are walked beside, never alone.
  • Refer without shame. When a soul needs more than a circle can give, say so kindly and point them onward. Knowing your edge is a strength.
  • Protect the vulnerable. Where safety is at risk — to a soul or anyone in their life — pause the circle and reach for the right help first.
  • Stay medicine-neutral. Hold with presence and care; never name or imply substances, never promise a cure.
A spaceholder holds with care, not clinical authority — these are circles of presence, not treatment. No holder diagnoses, advises medically, or carries a crisis alone. When a soul shows real distress or a need beyond what a circle can hold, the gift is to stay warm, stay grounded, and gently point them toward professional support. You never fail a soul by referring them on — you honour the edge of your seat, and that is exactly how a circle stays safe enough for the next person to exhale.

If you found yourself nodding — welcome. You already speak the village’s language.
If something gave you pause, that’s honest too. Sit with it; the door stays open.

This is me — I’d like to hold space Curious which circles we’re calling for? See the Call for Spaceholders → Read the whole covenant: Community Rules & Code of Conduct →
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